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The Millennial Marriage Project: Cowgirl Afternoon for Starters

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She was wearing a flowing, flowery skirt and it fell on either side of my legs. We had set this up online, and now I was fucking her during her shift. I felt her squeeze me most intimately as I literally saw Jesus. He was hanging on the wall behind her. I was screwing the Christian Bookstore Girl; fucking over God, engaging in online hook-up culture and having the kind bareback sex sure to kill ourselves, God and America. You could say we really had traditional culture bent over, but it was much more of a cowgirl kind of afternoon.

The Millennial generation is forging a distinctive path into adulthood. Now ranging in age from 18 to 33, they are relatively unattached to organized politics and religion, linked by social media, burdened by debt, distrustful of people, in no rush to marry— and optimistic about the future.


It seems like simultaneously everybody I know is getting married, getting divorced or pontificating about what people my age and younger want for our lives and love lives. There's stats, Pew continues:

Millennials have also been keeping their distance from another core institution of society—marriage. Just 26% of this generation is married. When they were the age that Millennials are now, 36% of Generation X, 48% of Baby Boomers and 65% of the members of the Silent Generation were married. Most unmarried Millennials (69%) say they would like to marry, but many... lack... a solid economic foundation.



"It has been clearly documented across campuses that students from lower social class backgrounds tend to hook up less," says Rachel Allison, an incoming assistant professor of sociology at Mississippi State University. [...]

Richer college students report delaying commitment in favor of hooking up, Allison says, to focus "on a period of self-development." But working-class undergraduates—who are more likely to commute to campus or work to supplement their tuition—often cannot afford to party, join a fraternity, or live on-campus.


And questions, so very many important questions:

Why are Millennials so divergent from other living generations in their marriage behaviors and attitudes?

And will their reticence endure over the long term, or does it simply reflect their current stage of life and the challenges of the post-recession economy?


What there does not seem to be are helpful resources from experienced people that have been through similar situations and have things in common with millennials because they are millennials. While Christian Bookstore Girl and I had an experience that would make both Lena Dunham and Ted Haggard vomit in rage and disgust, the fact we kept that crazy party going for more the 15 years would make the vomit in joy, and hopefully, respect.

This is the Millennial Marriage Project. A place for talk, tips, and what the fuck ever about millennials and marriages. Mrs. Hippie and I have moved across the country a few times, had various amounts of money, stumbled through sexes cyber to phone to honeymoon to in the in-laws bathroom. We've juggled finances, school and families while only dropping two of the three to take a self indulgent pic. It's been real, it's been awkward, and it's been real awkward at an official capacity for fifteen years now. Let's talk about some of the experiences that happen in millennial marriages from the millennial point of view. Leave your own questions and experiences in the comments, or just find a reason to talk about the time you went into a store and fucked the clerk. I did, and look where we are now.

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